Saturday, February 4, 2012

Different Areas of Your Life

You have your lists of wants, balanced in the different areas of your life. You have checked them against your values, and each supports the other. Now, how do we turn those "wants" into meaningful and achievable goals?

Today, take one of your Balance Wheel sections. One that is always important to me is Family. Traveling as much as I do, it would be very easy for me to lose contact with my children and grandchildren. So, one of my goals is to spend time with each of them, and for them to know that I am always available.

Now, it is important to understand the difference between "want to" and "do." "Wants" set up the "do's" in your life, and your goals will need to be written to reflect the "do." So, when my goal is to spend time with each grandchild, I write the goal like this: "I spend quality time with each of my grandchildren. They all know how important they are to me."

Suppose that you are a single mother, trying to balance work and home and family. It is a difficult road to travel, one filled with many choices. You want to spend as much time with your family, but you have to work. Guilt kicks in as you attempt to do it all. Now, thinking of work as a "have to" causes additional stress, which can shadow your work and home time. To remove the "have to" from work would help a lot, so your goal would be written as, "I love the work I do, because it affords me what I need to spend time with my kids."

One final tip: When you write out your "wants" and goals, make sure you write them in the present tense - the future as now. Take out the "going to" and replace it with "I am." You are seeing your future as if it has already happened.

Take each of your Balance Wheel "wants" and turn them into goals for the future, written in the present tense. You have come a long way in the last few days, and have started on the path to a successful 2012!

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Yesterday, we talked about the value of setting goals

Yesterday, we talked about the value of setting goals, about how a goal creates a gap that our minds are programmed to close - either forward or backward, depending upon how strong the picture is. This is why change can sometimes be difficult, because the new picture of where we want to be isn't as strong as the need to maintain current reality.

In order to move ahead, to reach goals that we have set for ourselves, we need to make the future picture of what we want more inviting, more attractive, more necessary than staying in our current reality. This is easier than it sounds, because of two things innate in human beings. We have the ability to use "forethought" - looking forward - and to use our imaginations. In other words, we can look ahead and dream of a future. As far as we know, no other creature on earth has these two abilities.

When we set a goal, and create that gap I mentioned yesterday, energy and creativity are unleashed in our minds. Those dreams of the future cause ideas and drive to close the gap - and we are tremendously creative creatures! We can dream of just about anything, and make those dreams reality.

One more piece: As we near completion of the goal or dream, we no longer need the energy and creativity. Drive and ideas disappear. We have closed the gap, and creativity is no longer needed. Effectively, you shut down. You're done. You compare where you wanted to be with where you have landed, and it is the same place, the same answer.

Goal achievement is a time for a little celebration! Each of us deserves a little pat on the back for a job well done. But keep in mind that we now shut down, and future growth is put on hold.

I have one more thought in this 2012 Trilogy. See you tomorrow.

Saturday, January 28, 2012

With the ending of one year and the beginning of another

With the ending of one year and the beginning of another,
 I am certain that 
you've noticed the avalanche of the year's "best" and "worst" lists. They are everywhere, from newspapers and magazines to television shows - even the financial pages. While it's fun to look back and reminisce, I'd like to talk a little bit about a more productive way of looking at where we are.
In these daily thoughts, I've talked about the need for purposefully setting goals for ourselves, in order to unlock the energy and creativity inside each of us. When we set a goal, we cause a "gap" for ourselves - between the way things are and the way we want them to be. It is in our nature to want to close that gap. A primary job of our subconscious mind is to keep us like we know we are. Setting a goal changes how we "know we are." We must close the gap..
In order to close that gap, to make the outside picture match the inside picture of who we know we are, our creative subconscious turns on enough energy and creativity to make it happen. We either get drive and ideas to move toward what we want in the future, or ideas and drive to stay where we are. Herein lies the danger of spending too much time looking back at the past.
You see, we move toward the strongest picture, and our natural tendency is to maintain our current idea (picture) of who we are. In order to change, we need to. make that future picture (goal) stronger and more attractive than staying put. By constantly reminding ourselves of our past, we lose the drive to move forwardGive a little thought to this today and this evening, and I'll take you another step in my thinking tomorrow

Planning for the future is a valuable activity

Planning for the future is a valuable activity, but living in the future isn't living at all. Let's talk about where we spend most of our time.

Our awareness of the future is inseparable from the search for meaning and purpose in our lives. Through our imagination, we create images that allow us to envision our possibilities in time yet to come. These images become a larger framework through which we identify ourselves, and our place in the world.

However, if we spend most of our time in the future, we fail to live because we are always preparing to live.

Many people know much more about making and saving money than about using and enjoying it. Many others are so busy planning for events in the future, which they hope will bring them happiness, that they miss a hundred chances every day to feel joy.

The same thing is true of living in the past. Human beings have a remarkable and unique ability to time travel, and the key is to shift constructively between foresight, hindsight, and a full awareness of current reality.

There is much to be learned from seeing the present in the context of the past, and from imagining the future as we want it to be.

As long as we remain flexible and not rigidly stuck in the past, the present, or the future, we can grow enormously and live life fully while making the most of all three.

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Where am I going


Here is one question that begins to surface for many of us as we find ourselves at the beginning of a new year. It is a very important question that you should ask yourself: "Where am I going?"

If you follow your current direction, where will you be in a year? In five years? In ten? And is that where you really want to go? Be honest with yourself.

Someone once said that the best way to predict the future is to get a very clear idea of what is happening now. We need to do the same thing in our lives.
If you ask yourself this question and you don't like the answer very much, it is important to realize that you have the power to change your direction. You can do it today. In fact, you can do it this very minute, if you really want to.

All that is required is that you choose to change with all your heart, and then you follow through on that commitment with appropriate action, one day at a time.

You don't have to know exactly where you are going or precisely how you will get there. But you do have to have a good sense of when you are moving in the right direction. And how do you know when that is happening? Slow down, take time to reflect, and ask yourself, "Does this feel right?" Then listen for the answer, and make any necessary corrections as soon as possible.


Better than any nove

Better than any novel or soap opera, my life has seen it all. From a 5 star hotel existence on various continents, through to parenthood, divorce and lone parenting; the suicide of a loved one, a working life behind prison bars, dealing with ADHD, Dyslexia, Dyspraxia, Asperger's, the gambling and drug addiction of some of the people around me; moving countries, caring for elderly parents, starting and running a business, a constant weight battle and a personal finance situation that hit rock bottom. 

There have been many battles and some huge achievements.  It just goes to show there are no barriers to what life wants to give us. It's how we adapt to the experiences, what we learn from them and how we use that knowledge that counts.
Educationally school was okay; but it was a bit later in life that my greatest academic achievements came about. My introduction to psychology was to open many doors, including those to a lot of prisons! Working with some of the most infamous criminals of recent British history has given me a wealth of knowledge and insight into the workings of the human mind.

I am now at a time in my life where I can offer both professional and personal insight into many situations that you may be struggling with or putting off because you think you are the only one in that place.  Just as life's experiences are limitless, so too are life's solutions. Let me show you the way.

Business & Personal Development Weightloss Mentoring Motivaltional Speaker

BA Ed (Hons), Dip REBT, Dip CSCT, Cert Ed.Focuses on the fundamentals of human behaviour that most affect personal & business performance 

To be the best you can be,in the life that you want


Saturday, January 21, 2012

Thought of The Day Putting Together the Pieces of the Puzzle

Putting Together the Pieces of the Puzzle

The results I achieved came about because I have been a seeker all of my life. I am also a good researcher so I have read and studied about everything that has ever been written on the subject of success and deliberate creation. It has been a bit like assembling a giant jigsaw puzzle.

My intention was to put the pieces together for my clients so they did not have to take as long as I did to “get it”. After several years of putting the pieces of the puzzle together, I created 
Personal Coaching for Change.

Once you understand and follow 
Personal Coaching for Change as I have it laid out for you – you can live in a natural state that allows you to easily and effortlessly create and attract an unlimited amount of abundance in your life with no stress and no worries.

A Simple, Easy, Effective Process For Rapid Change
The thing you will probably struggle with the most is the idea that you can change your life quickly. In fact, most therapists are trained to believe “it takes a long time to change”.

The problem is when we buy into the 
“it takes a long time to change”mentality it makes things more difficult for ourselves.

We are also programmed with the 
“no pain no gain” mentality. If you are programmed enough like that, it builds up and your life becomes a struggle.

You don’t have to struggle or 
“work hard” to get what you want. That is just another belief system. The fact of the matter is that the people who are the happiest; the people who are the most successful personally and financially, do not struggle or work hard.

Applying the principles in 
Personal Coaching for Change to make rapid changes in your life is a simple and easy process.

If it is that simple, I guess it begs the question; why does this program have
six hours of instruction? Good question!

The reason I have included instructions is that there is a world of difference between KNOWING how to do something and actually DOING it. We don’t
do what we know because our Subconscious mind resists change. If the Subconscious mind is not convinced the change is possible and safe, it will not allow the change to be made. The Subconscious holds all the cards.

So my job is twofold. First, I must “convince” you how and why your Conscious or logical mind works. After you accept how your Conscious mind accepts the “logic” and how and why it works, it will allow you to take the information and allow it to enter your Subconscious.

Permanent and lasting change
 requires that both the logical (Conscious) and emotional (Subconscious) mind are in alignment. To do this I use several techniques to make SURE that this happens.

Second, after aligning your Conscious and Subconscious mind I will give you simple instructions on 
how to use the information to create anything you desire. With everything in place, your Subconscious will align your intentions with the principles of Deliberate Creation through the use of Quantum Physics (Law of Attraction) and you can create whatever you desire in an easy stress-free manner.

And, it’s a 
repeatable process. It is not hit or miss. You can do it over and over again.
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